Personalize It – Make it personal and full of the things that made that person’s life lived well. What were their hobbies? Did they have a favorite sports team? A saying they’d always use? Be sure the memorial reflects who they were and the life they lived.
Selection of Speakers – Although there is often a portion of the Memorial Service dedicated to an open mic for all to speak as they wish, it is wise to tap into a few key people earlier on to speak on behalf of the family and lighthearted stories of the deceased to create smiles through the tears of grief.
Music – Your selection of music should reflect the life, love and times of the deceased. Were they a Motown fan? What was their first dance wedding song? What song did they always turn up the volume on in the car? Although the song selection will provoke tears, they will be tears of joy and heartfelt moments as cathartic relief for your loved ones.
Keep It Lighthearted – Remember that the Memorial Service is a celebration of your loved one’s life. Grief is an ongoing process, however on the day of the Memorial Service, remember to throw in interesting or funny photos, memories, as well as accomplishments. It’s ok to laugh out loud, despite the tears.